Ah, Lil Sis, I hear you. Grown-folk-ish means we don't have as much time for our friends as we did when we were younger. Sheesh, we hardly talk about that transition, and trust it can be super painful, especially if you feel like you shouldn't be sad or like everyone else is just pushing forward.
Chom, the truth is that as we age - especially women - we get loads of responsibility piled on. It takes more work to keep our friendships alive - but it is oh-so-worth it when we do.
Check it, some friendships won't survive, neh? That's just life - but the real ones will persevere with some effort from everyone involved.
If you and your chommas decide to invest in your sisterhood, the love and support you get back will always be worth it.
Let’s talk about how to make your squad unbreakable.
Time is precious, but so is your crew. So if you guys decide to work on the connection, that means that you need to prioritise friendship.
You don’t need to have grand hangouts every week—sometimes, just a quick check-in makes all the difference. A random “thinking of you” text, tagging your girl in a meme that screams her name, or a 10-minute call to catch up is a solid habit. The point is, BE THERE, even in small ways.
Sis, traditions are like glue! If you have busy schedules most of the time, set a monthly date and COMMIT! Whether it’s TikTok Tuesdays where you guys chill and watch each other’s fave vids, a monthly local trip or outing in the city, or even a group chat where you all share your weekly highs and lows, having rituals reminds you that you’re in this together.
It doesn’t have to be fancy—what matters is that it’s yours.
Boundaries are non-negotiable, even with our closest girls, yeah?
Respect their journey and make space for them to show up how they can. Sisterhood isn’t about forcing connection—it’s about honouring the love that’s already there.
Life moves differently for everyone.
One hun might be career-focused, and another might be juggling kids and hubby. We all have our journey and sistas are supporters.
Lil Sis, you know I am big on real talk and you should be too. It's what makes our relationship so solid, neh? You can tell me everything - and that's how you and your choms gotta be too.
If something’s bugging you—like feeling left out or miscommunication—bring it up respectfully but clearly. A strong sisterhood isn’t afraid of tough conversations.
Sis, don’t sleep on the power of hyping your girls up! Whether she’s crushing a work deadline, or you can see all the steps she has taken to take care of her mental health let her know you see her. Being each other’s biggest cheerleaders creates a bond that no one can break.
It’s not always about laughs and fun times. Sometimes, it’s about sitting in the really hectic and difficult moments together. Let your girls know they can lean on you, and don’t be afraid to lean on them, too. A strong sisterhood needs an environment where everyone feels heard and valued. Make it clear that your circle is a judgment-free zone. If your girls feel safe being their true selves, your bond will only deepen over time.
Sometimes sisterhood evolves, and that’s okay. New friends may come in, and old friendships might change. Stay open to the ebb and flow—growth in your sisterhood doesn’t mean losing what you have; it means expanding it.
Lastly, Sis, remember to guard what you’ve built. Gossip, competition, or disrespect has no place in a strong crew. Life will get in the way sometimes, but if you commit to showing up, being honest, and holding space for one another, your crew will be oraait!