Sis, I need help. There’s this hottie at school, and ijoh, I think I’m crushing—HARD. But here’s the thing: I’ve never crushed before. I was starting to think maybe I wasn’t into that kinda thing, chom. And now? My brain is buffering every time he’s around. I don’t wanna be that girl who does the most, but I also don’t wanna ignore this. Please gimme advice ASAP!
Hey Babes - welcome to the crushing club!
Crushing is like a rite of passage—we all get hit with it at some point. Sometimes it creeps up out of nowhere, like when a new person starts at school, and suddenly they’re all you can think about. Or maybe an old friend starts looking… different ( like, when did their smile get that cute?).
We don’t really know how it starts. But here’s what’s for sure:
Being confident is very attractive. Knowing what you want and going for it is a powerful move. Just know that there is a fine line between confidence and pushiness, okay? If you shoot your shot and your crush isn't feeling it—no harm, no foul; just back off and move on.
Before your brain casts this person as the main character in your love story, breathe. Stay grounded. Are they actually that amazing, or are you filling in the blanks? Crushes have a way of making people look perfect when really, they’re just… people. Observe them properly. Do they match your vibe? Are they kind? Funny? Do they chew with their mouth open? These things matter.
If you find yourself daydreaming 24/7 or "accidentally" bumping into them in the hallway five times a day (we see you, boo👀), it’s time to balance the scales. Keep yourself busy—go to the gym, read books, dance, bake, or do whatever keeps your mind at ease. A crush is a part of your life, not your whole personality.
Want to talk to them? Do it. Just keep it chill. There's no need for dramatic love confessions in the rain, babes. A simple conversation about school, music, or anything else that's not awkward is a good start. And if they’re feeling the vibe, too? Cute. If not, we move.
Not every crush turns into something. And that’s okay. If they don’t feel the same way, it’s not a reflection of your worth. Give yourself time to process, cry if you need to, then pick yourself up and keep it moving. There’s plenty of life (and people) ahead.
If your crush starts making you feel bad instead of excited, or if it’s affecting your schoolwork, friendships, or mental health, it might be time to check in with yourself. No crush should be that stressful. If ever you want to chat through navigating your emotions, reach out—Big Sis is always here.
Hit me up!
Big Sis
Blogs
