Babyghel, let’s be honest—having a crush can be a lot of work - and it can take up all of your headspace sometimes! It’s like it switches off the part of your brain that thinks logically, right?
One second, you’re minding your business; the next, you’re searching their Instagram, blushing at their name (and if you are anything like the teen romcoms we all grew up with, you’re signing your name and their surname on your homework assignments and in your diary).
If that sounds familiar, don’t stress— acting a bit out of character when you are crushing is all part of the journey, chomma.
In fact, leaning into those feelings can actually teach you a thing or two about yourself.
So, let’s talk about why crushes make us feel - and how to survive the chaos.
Why Do We Get Crushes?
Crushes aren’t just about thinking someone is cute (although that’s a HUGE part of it). Your brain is wired to seek connection, which sometimes means fixating on someone who makes your heart klop tjoklits, so to speak.
Even science backs it up—when you like someone, your brain releases a tasty cocktail of feel-good chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin. It's the same stuff that makes chocolate and #fail videos so addictive. It’s why you feel giddy, u about what your crush could lead to.
And let’s not forget the drama factor—when you don’t know where you stand, your brain keeps looping “what if” scenarios like a bad DJ. That uncertainty just makes the crush stronger. You know you love a lil bit of drama. Who doesn't?
When Your Crush Turns You Into a Cringe Compilation
Here’s the thing: crushes can make people act differently, but remember you are in full control of you and you can take the time to examine your behaviour.
Maybe you overanalyse every text, laugh too hard at their jokes, or suddenly develop a fake interest in rock climbing (even though you’re terrified of heights and don't even go outside, let alone in nature? Haibo). It happens to the best of us.
But instead of cringing at yourself, try flipping the script and learning from the moment.
Just answer the next text as yourself without worrying too much about how you came across. If they wanna know the real you, then now is the chance.
If you agreed to an activity that you’d rather skip, just text back something like - ‘On second thoughts, I’ma keep it real - I’ve never climbed a rock in my life. Let’s just get takeout and talk!’. They would appreciate your honesty and probably understand as they are crushing on you too and maybe also flew too close to the sun a few times with what they said to you! Heh!
How to Chill When the Crush Feels Overwhelming
A little daydreaming is fine, but it might be time to dial it back if your crush starts taking over your brain. What does that mean? No one needs to think of their crush 24/7 - remember you're just as great and important as they are and don't need to revolve your life around them.
Set a “Crush Time” Limit
Allow yourself a designated time to swoon during your walk home or while listening to that one song that makes you feel like the main character. This way, you get your cute daydreams and still function for the rest of the day.
Say It (Even If It’s Just to Yourself)
If your crush is single and available, maybe—just maybe—it’s worth saying something. No grand speeches are needed, just a casual “Hey, Wanna go for a coffee sometime?.” Worst case? They don’t feel the same, and you move on with clarity. Best case? You start something fun and make a new friend - or more.
But if confessing isn’t an option (because, you know, they’re your teacher, your best friend’s sibling, or already taken), you can still express it, just not to them, ghel. Write it in a journal, spill to a friend, or tell your pet, chomma. Getting it out of your head can help ease the feelings.
Turn the Crush Into a Learning Moment
Whether it works out or not, every crush teaches you something. Maybe you’re drawn to kindness, intelligence, or just a really good haircut. Either way, noticing what makes your heart skip a beat helps you understand what you want in future relationships.
Crushes can be fun, messy, and mildly embarrassing, but they’re also just a part of life. You don’t need to fix them—just ride the wave, cringe when necessary, and remember: if your crush makes you feel all the feels, that means you’re alive and paying attention. And that’s never a bad thing.
You got this, Chom
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