Big Sis, the jams are pumping outside in the streets right now! I’m just chilling at home, trying to psych myself up to pop in, but Haibo—I’m not feeling it. I was looking forward to grooving with the homies this festive season, but now that it’s here, I feel disconnected and pretty disappointed. This year was just not it for me, neh? Am I depressed or something?
Hey Chomma,
Wow, this year has been up and down! The rand is not make sure, the prices are soaring and even the weather has been unpredictable, but here we are - surviving babes! Cos in Mzansi, we push!
The truth is, for lots of people (even teens and tweens), the holidays can bring up all kinds of feels, and not all of them are the nca ones.
Chug this tea, babes:
These holiday blues are more common than you think, and it’s 100% OK to feel this way.
But ghel, there is a difference between feelings of disappointment and sadness, and navigating depression.
Sis, if that sad or heavy mood sticks around for weeks and starts changing how you feel about life in general, or how you act, it might be more than just a rough patch.
Depression is real, Mo’ghel. The good news, hun? With the right help like therapy or support from a trusted adult—it can get better. But if it’s left untreated, haibo - those feelings can linger or even get worse, and we don’t want that for you! Check this blog on Seasonal Depression.
And hey, if these feelings stick around or get heavier, don’t hesitate to reach out for more support. It’s not weak—it’s wise.
Chat to your Big Sis, a counsellor, or someone you trust in your circle, chom.
Oh Chom, I see you. The holidays are supposed to be your time to breathe, but instead, it’s like school’s still whispering in the back of your mind: “Are you ready for next year? Shouldn’t you be doing more?” Yoh, the pressure is REAL, and it can make you feel like you don’t deserve to rest.
But here’s the truth, lil sis: You are worthy of rest. Full stop.
School is important, sure, but so is your mental health and well-being. You can’t pour from an empty cup, babes. Running yourself into the ground won’t make you more prepared—it’ll just make you tired. Taking time to chill isn’t lazy. It recharges your mind, so you’re ready to tackle those books when the time comes.
You’re not a robot. Rest is as important as studying, and both work together to make you thrive.
If the thought of doing nothing feels overwhelming, schedule just one productive thing a day—like organising your notes or reading a chapter. Then, give yourself permission to chillax after.
Burnout in December won’t help you in February, Chom. Think of rest as an investment in your future self.
Worth isn’t about how much you do; it’s about who you are. And who you are is enough. Period.
Take the break you deserve, my love. The textbooks will still be there when you’re ready. But for now? Put you first.
It’s OK to say, “I’m not feeling it.” Feelings aren’t facts; they’re just temporary waves. Recognising them is the first step to working through them.
You don’t have to hit the groove if you’re not feeling it. Instead, create your own vibe at home—play the music you love, binge your favourite series, or cook up some comfort food.
Maybe just send a msg or voice note to your homies if you ain’t tryna chill in person right now. Connection doesn’t have to be in-person if you’re not ready.
Holidays aren’t just about the parties and lights; they’re about you, too. You deserve to feel seen, heard, and loved, no matter what season it is.
Chat soon,
Big Sis
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