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Go With The Flow: The Low-Down On Period Sex


Big Sis, I know sex on your period is seen as dirty, but when I’m on my period it’s ALL I can think about! Is there something wrong with me?

Chomi, almost all women who experience periods have wanted to jump their lover's bones during menses, aka your period. The hormones are raging during our periods, and our vaginas are seen as 'out of order' - joh, Imagine? But sis, what if I told you period sex is ON THE TABLE? Period sex can be a positive and intimate experience.


Let's start by getting the facts straight about period sex. Firstly, it is ALWAYS a top tier idea to use a barrier method like condoms to make sure we stay safe from any Sexually Transmitted Infections. You can still contract an STI even if you have sex while menstruating. Certain viruses, like hepatitis, can also be present in menstrual blood, so safety is KEY to enjoying sex during this time.

Mo’ghel, another myth is that you can't fall pregnant when you are bleeding. Haibo. Regardless of your menstrual cycle phase, pregnancy is possible, though less likely, during your period. The most fertile time is around ovulation, (two weeks before your period), but if you have a short menstrual cycle, your chance of falling pregnant during your period is higher.

REMEMBER, Babes: Sperm can survive in your body for up to five days. If you have a 22-day cycle and ovulate soon after your period, you could release an egg while sperm are still viable (ALIVE AND WELL!).

The Benefits Of Period Sex:

Many women feel much hornier from around two weeks into the menstrual cycle, and even right through their period. This makes it a great time for sex. You’re having sex when you’re the most turned on. Your skin is more sensitive, and you are naturally we.

The hormonal changes that occur during menstruation can lead to a better sexual experience, especially more powerful orgasms.

Orgasms also help with menstrual cramps, chomi. The endorphins (feel-good hormones) released when you orgasm are a natural painkiller and the contractions of the uterus can also help to ease the cramping.

Period sex can also help to boost your mood and help you feel more connected to your lover.

Tips For Comfortable Period Sex:

Talk to your lover about what you want (and don't want) from the experience. Things may get a little messy, with a few more fluids than usual - but going into the experience prepared will make the mess more manageable.

  1. Use a towel to on top of your sheets to ease concerns about messiness.
  2. Try different positions, such as lying on your back or side. You may need to work around any sensitive or painful areas on your body, so be patient while exploring what feels best for both of you.
  3. Shower beforehand, to remove any extra blood, and feel fresh, clean, and ready to go, ghel!

Talking to your lover about period sex can feel scary, but by discussing your feelings, you can create a safe space where both of you feel comfortable exploring intimacy during menstruation.

Big Sis gotchu, boo!