Hey, Chom,
The older folk love a traditional vibe, neh? We all got those obligatory get-togethers we gotta go to, and sometimes it's cool! But sometimes, sjoh! It can get old, Chom. Also, let’s be 100 - the budget doesn't always align with the vision these days. Inflation, haibo!
I know we do not want to be disrespectful - but you don’t have to stick to the “same old, same old”, ghel.
If it doesn’t work for you. You’ve got the power to start fresh.
Forget the “rules” and focus on what makes you happy.
But how do I ask my family if we can start new holiday traditions?
Sjoe babes there are so many ways. Get everyone involved and make it seem like a group idea- Kanti you're the main brain behind the business LOL.
Involve kids: Ask the younger kids in the fam if they have any ideas for new traditions. They may have special ideas that make them feel included.
Talk about food: You know South Africans love to eat. I suggest adding new foods to the yearly menu, to shake ish up a little.
Hit them in the fashion: Festive is lowkey a fashion show, make it part of the tradition to wear matching outfits or pyjamas to create a sense of unity. Motivate them with a yearly family picture together.
Get Your Squad Involved.
Sis, maybe you’re far from home and just not in the holiday spirit because you miss how things were done at home. That’s valid too, Mo’ghel!
If you’re in a new place, bring your home vibes with you and show the new people who are around you. Cook a meal from your culture, teach others a traditional dance, or introduce them to the music you grew up with. Sharing pieces of yourself makes the holidays feel warmer and familiar.
Gather your besties, housemates, or even some new friends, and create traditions together.
From Secret Santa swaps to a festive braai or a midnight beach stroll, your chosen family can make the season feel just as special as being with your blood relatives. Why not video call them and you can all share together!
Love pizza more than turkey? Boom, it’s a pizza party Christmas, babes. Want to skip the gift-giving stress? Make it a day for swapping stories or watching old movies instead.
There is no right or wrong way.
Focus on you, boo!
Your new tradition can be private too, hun. Light a candle for reflection (thinking about all the good that happened this year), make a playlist that lifts your spirits, or spend the day journaling your hopes for the new year. Little rituals can bring a sense of calm and purpose, especially if the season isn't hitting like it used to.
Your Holiday, Your Rules
Holidays don’t have to fit a mould, chom. Whether you’re going all out or keeping it chilled, the real meaning of the festive season is about finding joy in the way you choose.
So, ditch the expectations.
And if you don’t have anyone to talk to about how you feel, you’ve got me.
Hit me up, babyghel.
Big Sis
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