Joh, Big Sis. I feel so lonely when the KeDezemba vibes hit. Not like, sad or whatever, but I can't shake this feeling like I am missing out on the true spirit of the Festive season, you know? My friends are all busy, or working and it’s just not hitting. I can't be only one this down bad, right sjoe?
Hey, lil sis!
Guuurrrl, I feel you! Holidays can be different, especially when you get older. When you’re a kid, the long school holiday feels like an adventure with your buddies, but as you get older, it sometimes feels like everyone’s living their best lives, and here you are, feeling like the only one missing out.
And social media? Don’t even get me started, Sana! Everyone’s flexing their December jol pics like they’re living in a movie, but you just home eating noodles on bread. But trust me, most of what we see on the FYP is just for show. Everyone’s crew isn’t always on call for a good time!
You’re not alone in feeling this way. Feeling out of place is a universal experience when the “KeDezemba vibes” don’t quite hit.
But lemme tell you, sis. You don't need to spend all the days of the holidays moping around. Don’t get me wrong, enjoying some downtime alone can be refreshing too - alone doesn't necessarily mean lonely. But if you are in the mood for company, you may need to put yourself out there hun.
Here are some tips to help you get your social battery charged and ready.
Sometimes, all you need is a quick catch-up with friends—even if it’s over WhatsApp or a chill video call session. Everyone has different schedules and that can make IRL meet-ups a bit trickier. And maybe some of your friends might be worried that the budget is budgeting - a group video chat, with everyone with a snack or two, can solve that right quick.
Take the time to set up some small dates when everyone has got the time. Just say, “Now that we are all on this call, when is everyone off?” Plan small, cute things: beach day, a mission to the mall, game nights, or even a movie night if that’s what you vibe with. Spending time with your people doesn’t have to be wild to be real.
If the chommies are away, why not fill your days with activities, like volunteering? Sis, what a great way to do something to give back to our communities. Whether it’s helping at a soup kitchen, dropping by an old-age home to spend time with the elderly (who also find this time of year pretty lonely), or collecting clothes for charity, it’s powerful stuff. Giving back gives you that warm feeling and reminds you that you’re part of something. And if you don’t have much to give, your time is enough. Don’t forget that, sis!
Got something you’ve always wanted to try? December’s your time to try! Pick up that paintbrush, learn a dance, start writing, or try a DIY project. Now that you have some extra time on your hands, you can really get into it, chomma. Also, having a hobby and going to spaces that house these hobbies is a fantastic way to meet like-minded sisters. There are loads of holiday activities in SA that don’t cost too much. Hiking clubs, silent discos on the beach, and loads more.
Chom, whatever you do, don't compare your life to others. And if watching others is making you feel sad or alone, change the channel, baba. Social media’s cool for some inspo, but too much and it’ll have you feeling like you’re the only one not living it up. Set limits, and remind yourself that people post their best moments, not their full reality. No one is surrounded by their crew 24/7!
The festive season is yours to make your own, chom. And don't be scared to put yourself out there. Your vibe attracts your tribe, mos.
You got this, ghel!
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