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Three Ways To Cum: How To Reach Solo Orgasm

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Aweh, ghel!

Have you heard the saying ‘There is more than one way to skin a cat?” - well that rings true about the many ways you can masturbate and reach orgasm.

There isn't just a one-size-fits-all approach - you have options so that you can ‘get there’ in a way that makes you feel comfortable and safe - and completely satisfied.

Pleasure Zones

You can enjoy touch on any part of your body, sis. Most women enjoy playing around with the more erogenous (sexy) parts like the nipples, the neck and the clitoris.

The clitoris is a small but mighty part of the female anatomy, often overlooked but incredibly important for sexual pleasure. You’ll find the clitoris at the top of the labia surrounding the vagina, but it’s not just a tiny nub; it extends deep into the body with loads of nerve endings. Nicknamed the “pleasure nub,” the clitoris can bring a lot of joy and satisfaction. You can stimulate it both inside and out, which means there are plenty of ways to explore and enjoy.

Masturbation, Maybe?

There is a big misconception that female masturbation needs to be a messy affair. It can be if you prefer, but if you want to start slow and small, you don't need to worry about getting your hands or any toys involved. Many women find comfort in a technique called Syntribation. Yes, that's a mouthful! But it is the name for masturbation by rubbing the thighs together to stimulate the clitoris and reach orgasms fairly quickly.

Make yourself comfy and lay on your side. The best is to do this in a bed or on a soft surface. You can be naked or fully clothed - you control the environment.

Try to change the pressure as you progress. Maybe you prefer a tight squeeze - or you like a more gentle pulsing. Take your time and only do what feels good.

To elevate the experience, you can place a thick blanket or a pillow between your legs, against the vulva to heighten the pleasure.

Toys

Using toys to masturbate can seem scary at first, but as long as you practice proper hygiene and safety, you can have a lekker time alone or with a partner, using methods and aids that make things fun.

There are hundreds of toys on the market. The most commonly known ones are dildos and vibrators. These are toys that are shaped like penises to mimic the act of sex. But, did you know vibrators come in different shapes and sizes? Lotsa women have a preference for smaller more discreet vibrators that can be put closer to their desired spots (and that suck in the clitoris for a heightened stimulation).

Can I Use My Fingers?

Girl, you can use anything that pleases you.

If you want to explore with your hands, make sure you’re already aroused enough to be wet down there or get some lube to make things slippery. Dryness can cause friction and that might leave you all chaffed up after - Eina.

Also, make sure your hands are washed and that your nails are clean (the shorter the better).

Start with just two fingers at the hood (front) of the vagina and make small, light circles. You will find the right spot that you enjoy touching. When you feel confident enough, work your way down to the vagina entrance.

If you want to stimulate your G-spot, insert your fingers into your vagina. Press up, and rub the area to see if it works for you. If it does, great! If not, stick with clitoral stimulation. Penetration can be intense for beginners, and it's perfectly normal to have preferences. It's your body, and you have the right to enjoy what feels best for you. No one can tell you what you should or shouldn't like.

Otherwise, babes, take your time with all of it. Set the mood, light some candles or incense and make the space your personal pleasure station, perfectly equipped for your self-learning journey.

Till next time,
Big Sis.