How Do I Talk About Safe Sex With My Partner?

Hey Big Sis! I really like this person I'm seeing, and things are getting serious. I want to be safe when it comes to STIs, but I'm nervous about bringing it up. How do I have this conversation without making things awkward?

Hey Lil Sis,

Let me just hype you up for a sec—you’re already showing queen energy by thinking about your sexual health! Caring about yourself and your partner is anything but awkward; it’s responsible, mature, and honestly, a little sexy. So don’t sweat it, sis—you’re making all the right moves!

P.S. If you need specific info about different types of STIs or where to get tested, slide into my DMs or call the helpline. I gotchu, girl!

Why Safe Sex Matters

Keeping it 100 Chom, STDs are not ayoba to live with, It makes life harder and uncomfortable. Any typa illness can be a real big life adjustment, mentally and physically. But here’s the good news: they’re mostly preventable with the right steps.

Before you get down, you’ve gotta check some things off the list:

Test together, stay together

Testing doesn't have to be a serious thing that you need to do alone - make it a date, soema. You both can dress up and pack a snack and do it as a team. Nothing is sexier than taking care of each other by taking care of yourselves.

Getting tested as a team shows that you both care about each other’s health and well-being.

• Aim for testing at least twice a year, or more if you have multiple partners.
• Remember: some STIs can be sneaky with no symptoms, so don’t skip those check-ups cos you feel ugrand! Go anyway.

Your privacy and confidentiality will always be protected when receiving healthcare services, so don’t be afraid to ask for the care you need!

Speak up, hun

The more things you two can talk about in your relationship, the stronger you guys will be. The best relationship is one where everything is on the table for discussion, chom. I know certain topics might feel awkward in the beginning, but here’s how you can bring it up smoothly:

• “I really care about you, and I want us both to feel safe and comfortable- and to me, that means making sure we are both healthy.”
• “Can we talk about getting tested before we take things further? I care about you a lot, and want to make sure we are safe.”
• “I’d love for us to go get tested together—it’d mean a lot to me.”
• “Let’s make sure we’re both protected so we can really enjoy our time together.”

Remember, sis: Your health is your wealth. Anyone worth getting intimate with will respect your need to stay safe. Prioritising your well-being is a form of self-love—and that’s what being a queen is all about.

Stay safe, stay sexy, and slay!

Big Sis