Self Care

Busting One Out: The Low-down On Masturbation and Pleasure.


Hey Little Sis!

Growing up or even now, you might have heard things like, “Masturbation is dirty,” or “Good girls don’t do that.” But guess what, ghel? Masturbation is a natural and healthy part of exploring your body and your sexuality.

Masturbation, aka flicking the bean, is often whispered about but rarely spoken about openly, neh? That is because of the myths and taboos that have been passed down through generations. Getting educated on the facts can change that narrative, honey. Good on you for wanting the deets and breaking the stigma - when we do this we empower the next generation of women and validate (support) those before us who may have felt shame about pleasure.

Let’s Unpack Some Myths And Taboos, Chomi!

It’s a way to understand what feels good for you, without any shame attached.

(1) Only Men Masturbate.

Skommeling, flying solo, rubbing one out (which might be the most accurate for the ghels) or flicking the bean- no matter what you call it, everyone does it.

Boys and men have always had a free pass to pleasure. In society, boys are more likely to speak openly about the pleasure of sex. Girls have always been expected to act shy about the big “O” (orgasms, neh?).

Nowadays, women are prioritising their sexual needs and desires and people are making sure that women’s sexual needs are just as valid and important as men’s - and just as frequent and intense.

Masturbation is a form of self-care and a way to connect with your own body. It helps women understand their sexual responses, preferences, and boundaries, leading to top tier sexual experiences.

(2) Masturbation Can Damage Your Genitals.

Touching or using toys on your genitals is super unlikely to damage them. Our sex organs or genitals, are made to handle a bit of friction— vaginas and penises are tough! The most that can happen is a little chafing afterwards, but using some lubrication can easily prevent that. Chafing is broken skin as a result of dry parts rubbing together.

Also, many women masturbate may without any penetration (nothing entering or touching the vagina). We will get into that in a different blog, so keep your eyes peeled for the piping-hot tea.

(3) Masturbation Has No Health Benefits.

You know the elders were gatekeeping and gaslighting with this one! Masturbation helps keep you relaxed, girlboss!

It may help you sleep better -and fall asleep faster if you’re feeling tired but can’t dose off. That's because when you masturbate, your body releases endorphins, those feel-good hormones that make you feel happy and relaxed. They're like your body's natural stress relievers.

It also keeps you in a good mood for the rest of the day.

For women, masturbation can reduce pain during sex by combatting vaginal dryness, making sex more comfortable and enjoyable.

(4) Masturbation Is Immoral Or Shameful.

Sjoe, babes! The guilt associated with masturbation is a barrier for many women. Society has always said that self-pleasure is immoral or something to be ashamed of. But IRL, it’s a part of a healthy sex lifestyle and self-image. It’s your body, and you have the right to explore it in a way that feels nca.

Chomi, the new generation is creating safe spaces to have open convos about masturbation, sex, and everything in between.

And when women embrace their sexuality, it can lead to greater confidence and empowerment in all areas of life. You got this!

Chat soon,
Big Sis