Abazali Should Know - The Nervous System Is Always Listening

Chomi,

There are a lot of things that cause pain in this life. Ke bua ka pain that you can’t put a plaster on or take a pain tablet for. Always feeling the urge to compete for a parent's love, can be crushing to a child’s heart.

Abazali are an important part of everyone’s growth (except me mntase, nna I’m not a real motho🤭). Parents often don’t realise how important they are to the little humans they brought to this world. Yoh ba na le go lebala that children listen with their nervous systems and not just their ears.

A nervous system “listens” through a four part process.

1. Sensory Input - this part listens by detecting stimuli: a strained voice, a change in tone, the bombastic side eye, the hand that loosens after you say something that needed you to be held.
2. Transmission - Neurons (they are like the body’s little routers, sending information to the brain and spinal cord
3. Integration - The brain and spinal cord process the information creating sensations, thoughts and memories.
4. Response or Motor Output - The nervous system sends messages to muscles or glands to produce a change such as movement or hormone release.

What you feel when your heart is completely crushed doesn't just sit as a heavy weight on your heart - it actually is locked into your nervous system, moghel. And one thing about your nervous system chomi, is that it doesn’t forget. Asithi for example neh, that your parent said you were lying when you were telling the truth, and as Motor Output to the Sensory Input you kept quiet because you were so hurt and confused, the next time anyone accuses you of lying when you’re telling the truth, your nervous ikhipha the same file and you won’t be able to speak up for yourself.

The nervous system listens in two ways:

1. External listening - scans the outside world through the 5 senses
2. Internal listening - scans inside the body for things like How fast your heart is beating or how quickly you're breathing

The most painful thing echo in the nervous system. Some of the deepest pains come from abazali. If you know how much this pain sucks, chomi o sa leba go bua le nna neh? I'm always there to listen to you.